5 Ways to Handle a Threenager

We are just a few weeks away from THREE. I cannot believe this little bit is growing so fast! And if you have met her, you know she's a tornado of energy and curiosity. We test each other daily, but she is my little buddy. I love her feistiness yet want to scream at times, too. Each day is a new adventure, and I am still learning as I go.

She is showing signs of defiance and has quite the personality. Her strong will can be a struggle for both us (though I do love how tough she is) as we go about our days. I feel as though I need to be mentally prepared each morning and teach her the right ways to use this boundless energy. Here's how I plan to handle this threenager - her sass, her toughness, and all that comes with the fun.

{1} Set A Routine

I know you've heard this tidbit before, but for this busy one, we need structure. Though I don't follow a clock, I do complete the same process most days. Get up, watch a show and eat breakfast, dress, and go. Lunch is in the same period of time then praise the Heavens, a nap. By naptime, we both need a break.

Of course, we venture off routines here and there, but there are some non-negotiables when it comes to these needed breaks. Bedtime is a routine too, and she knows how the process goes.

And just like any routine, you have to find one through trial and error. Since she didn't sleep well from 5-7 months old, we've experienced all the things that do/do not work. But, since my little diva is quite the rambunctious one, she needs to know that we have times for certain things. I can't do a free-for-all with her or my house (and sanity) would be a chaotic mess!

{2} Encourage Independent Play

She does go to school two days a week, so on the days we are home together, we play everything from puzzles to coloring to tea parties. However, there are times I want to see her imagination at work! She is different from my son in that she will let go of me at this age and play on her own. But, one thing I've learned from her is that you need to keep one eye on her or this play could include painting her own nails or locking me out of my phone. We are working on what proper play is :)

{3) Prioritize the Temper Tantrum

These are definitely increasing as we approach three. For example, this week, she put on her Elsa dress-up shoes but couldn't get them to fit. Because they were on the wrong feet. During her extreme frustration, she began to throw the shoes. I sat down with her to explain the problem and offer a solution. Imagine how well that went. After once again showing her and still being upset, I walked away and let her figure it out on her own. Staying right there in that time would only frustrate her more. Eventually, she saw the light and skipped on her way in her correctly placed shoes.

I have to prioritize what the tantrum is all about. If it's something like the shoe catastrophe, I will try once then move over to let her find resolution. She is pretty independent and will get more upset if I try to help. Of course, if she's in any danger (which is often with my climber/Evil Knieval), I step right in and correct whether she likes it or not. Stopping a tantrum is hard and tiring, but I know when to step in and when to jump right out.

{4} Monitor the Mom Emotions

Oh, how I need this reminder DAILY. The shoe episode made me loco too - just put the shoes on the right feet, child! But, I have to talk patiently to myself then give that patience to her. No way is this easy, but if I get angry, then the fit lasts longer. My kids are 5 years apart, and I feel as though I blocked my son's tantrums from my mind. Now that I am in this stage all over again, I am relearning new ways to work it - especially since she is so different than he was.

{5} Show the Love

When they get it right or figure out a solution on their own, tell them how proud you are and remind them of what they did. Just as the shoe saga, once she got it, we celebrated just a bit. She knew how to fix the problem, but she just wanted to be mad. Story of a threenager, right??

And even when they don't throw their fits, and you see something worth praise, definitely show the love! We are regressing a bit in potty training, so when it goes well, we talk and I remind her that she is more than capable. Small victories every single day mixed with the crazy. That's parenting.

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Each day with my little love brings new adventures and new discoveries about each other. God gave me this one for a reason - she makes  all my gray skies blue. I love learning about her and seeing her grow - even if some days I feel a mess in toddler land.

What are some helpful ways you handle your threenager? Share the love, mamas!

Our Summer Vacation - Arkansas

We are back! Our summer vacay has concluded - back to the real world we go. I mentioned this  unplugged trip on the blog and how much I personally needed a recharge. And if you follow my posts on  Her View From Home, you saw just how I was feeling before we left. I needed to get away.

But, let's be real for a hot minute - traveling with kids is NO JOKE. The first leg of the trip took 6 hours when it should've taken 4. Potty breaks. Snack demands. He's-touching-me fights. Good thing the hubs and I have a sense of humor and that our destination was breathtaking.

Arkansas, thanks for the memories. The laughs. The escape from job stress. And even the craziness that toddler travels brings. We loved our summer vacation!

My husband, being the outdoorsman that he is, wanted to forgo the beach and try being one with nature. I obliged though you may have heard me scream from Texas when the little one handed me a minnow she thought was "sparkly." There were creatures galore, but the faces of my kids (and their no fear attitudes - whose kids are these??) were worth every minute.

Special thanks to my dad and my uncle - their great adventures fly fishing in Arkansas made us chose this place for our summer road trip. So sit back and enjoy some our Arkansas adventure!

What can you expect from Arkansas?

Beauty.

When this is your backyard for a week, you can't help but stare at God's wonder. This spot meant fishing for trout, throwing rocks, and catching those sparkly minnows.

It also meant memories for the kids.

First time fishing, first time tubing, first time on a lake. I conquered some fears and jumped in myself. I like seeing what's around me when I am swimming - unlike the hubs who caught a fish with his hands. HIS BARE HANDS. I'm married to Bear Grylls.

Arkansas also meant tranquility.

Being in a place where my dad, brother, and uncle have been gave me a sense of peace I haven't felt in a while. In fact, we had a friendly butterfly who loved to perch right on our heads, shoulders, and hands. At times, it was a bit pesky and persistent. This new friend reminded us of my brother - in fact, my son kept calling him Doug after my bro.

I liked those moments of peace.

Our little cabin in the woods was ideal. We played, we shared, we relaxed. I even read THREE whole books while I was there. Remember  my summer reading list? I conquered the whole thing (and for the record, I HIGHLY recommend  The Sea Keeper's Daughter).

We also ate at some great places while there -

Pecan Point Brewing Company - Refreshing margaritas after a long drive and exceptional eats.
Back Forty - The fried green beans and hamburgers. Wowzers.
Whispering Woods - OMGosh - the wild mushroom ravioli - I may drive back just for this dish.

Needless to say, clean eating returns this week.
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If you are reading and you're from Arkansas, thank you for sharing this beautiful place with four crazy Texans. We enjoyed every second. Even the ten hour car ride home with a threenager and a car sick big brother.

If you are looking for a place to unwind and unplug, check out all the peace and joy Arkansas offers. Now back to reality...

Have a great week, friends! Thanks for joining in our Arkansas fun!

Going Unplugged - Vacation Time

We are inching closer to our family vacay - a week away from work, stress, obligations, and technology. Yep, we are going unplugged. We leave this weekend, and while I wasn't so sure at first about the "limited cell phone service" in our lodging description, I feel more than ready now.

If you've been reading as of late, you know I've had some hard times - not to mention  my anxiety - so I am hoping this week away will remind us (really - me) of all our blessings. I am ready to get out of the city and just be still.

Recently, I wrote a piece for Her View From Home. I love the pieces here - some funny, some so raw and real - and how the writers share from their hearts. The month of June was a hard one for me - just the usual craziness but throw in some firsts, and it was extra rough. My brother's first Heavenly birthday and the first Father's Day without him. I wanted to put all of those feelings into words and release some of them from my shoulders. You can see my post HERE - share, comment, and/or pray if you are inclined.

After writing about my grief, I stumbled upon these words about the kindness of others when you are hurting. When others see/feel/understand your sorrow, it also can lessen the burden grief places on your world. In fact, after reading these words, I met someone who spoke to my heart and offered support after hearing of my brother's death. When others feel our sorrow, we feel lighter.

Image Via Positive Life Tips

I am going into our unplugged week hoping even more will lift as I spend this time with my family. Thank you all so much for reading my little blog and for your support. I can't wait to share a bit of our technology-free week when we return.

And for a fun, upbeat note - you can see more mama talk over at The Mighty Mamas. You may just see me sharing some candid moments from this motherhood fun!

See you soon, friends!

Friday Finds {Vol. 30} - My Summer Reading List

Fun fact - I love a good book. Truth - I am often too tired to finish one. My reading habits include binging book after book for a good month or two, then taking a long sabbatical trying to find the next good one. Luckily, I am a member of two book clubs, so they are motivating me to get back on my reading game.

My latest book suggestions came from one avid reader/friend and Amazon. Want to read along with me? Here is my Summer 2016 Reading List.

The Hypnotist's Love Story by Liane Moriarty - I have loved all books by this author. This one is next on my list. What Alice Forgot, The Husband's Secret, and Big, Little Lies are also great too!

The Royal We by Heather Cooks and Jessica Morgan - I just finished this book, and while it took a second to get into, I ended up loving this story (because a good love story never hurt anybody). And, if you are a fan of Kate Middleton, you may see some similarities to her, too!

The Sea Keeper's Daughters by Lisa Wingate - My neighbor let me borrow this one, and I am reading it now. So far, I am really involved in this story of a woman coming back home after many big changes in her life. Dealing with a disgruntled stepfather and a declining business, she discovers a family mystery that may change all she's known.

Who Do You Love by Jennifer Weiner - This author has been a favorite of mine! Little Earthquakes and Good in Bed are such fun reads. This one is on it's way from Amazon, and I plan to read on our vacay in a couple of weeks.

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Need more ideas? Be my friend on Goodreads or check out this post about my favorite books from 2015.

Want even more? My sweet friend at Seven Graces has this list to help build yours!

What's on your reading list this summer?

How to Maintain Valuable Friendships in a Busy World

Life is so crazy when you have little ones. Life is really just crazy when you're trying to adult. If I have learned anything in the last 6 months, it's that I desperately need my friends. I need their prayers, their understanding, their hugs, their laughs...and their time. That last one is SO hard when you are a mom whose first priority is family. But, when life gets tough - sick kids, loss, job change, or just plain ol' stress, it's my friends who give me strength.

So, how do we maintain any friendship - new or old - when we are busy, tired moms? I am NO expert because I have failed in some areas myself, but in our adult life, maintaining these relationships are dire to our well being. We cannot do life alone - it helps when valuable friendships cover us like a blanket. To comfort, protect, and love.

Communicate

If you are like me, talking on the phone can be a chore when you have little ones at your feet. You know those calls - you want to catch up with a friend, but you have to stop mid-sentence to correct or shush. And sure, we can interact on social media, but a good phone call may amp up your soul. I have to admit - I am terrible at this part.  During any alone time I have, I find myself collapsing in exhaustion, and a phone call is the last thing I can do - nothing valuable will come from that. Maybe make time to call and/or talk - yes, set an appointment for that communication. We schedule kid's activities and such so why not a good chat?

Do Not Compare

I'm sharing this one because I have found myself here lately. In the midst of hard times, it can be hard to see friends sharing fun and happiness on Facebook. I want to be jovial and carefree (right there with them), but grief and/or anxiety sneak in too much. But, just like with ANY life event, we are all in different seasons of life. Your hard may be different than a friend's hard. And more importantly, when it IS hard, never compare. Meet them wherever they are in their journey. Be present. Be patient.

Keep Plans

When I make plans with someone, I try so hard to keep them - mainly because I desperately need other human contact. A dinner out with a dear friend or even a weekend away can restore your soul. Sure, kids take precedence, but carefully select when you can meet and keep the date. These friends may need this time with you so badly. And if you can't make it because you JUST can't - darn the overwhelming life we lead - be honest. A good friend will understand.

Laugh. Laugh A lot.

This past weekend, my college roomie came in town. She had some time off from work and chose to spend it with me (insert joy emoji). We can laugh like crazy fools when we are together - we reminisce; we dissect motherhood. I loved this time with her - our goofy fun came at the perfect time.

I have to also mention my sweet friend, Amanda, who is also on a grief journey. We share texts on our rough days that would probably weird out some folks, but to REALLY share what I feel with someone who "gets" it then end up laughing? My favorite. Just keep laughing - no better person to laugh with than a friend.
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What are some ways you maintain friendships in this busy life? My friends are my world, and I know I am not the perfect one, so I am all ears on how keep my sweet friends close!

Friday Finds {Vol. 29} - Mini Ninja Class

Hip, hip hooray for Friday! And extra cheers for a long weekend - I hope you all have a fun and festive 4th of July. We are planning a neighborhood block party AND my college bestie is coming in town. She's coming just at the right time since the funk took over this week - I am ready for laughs, barbecue, and fireworks!

Meanwhile, our summer bucket list is being tackled head-on, and I wanted to give you an update. We are LOVING American Ninja Warrior. My son is OBSESSED with this show - we watch and DVR every single episode so he can watch and watch again. I have to admit - I get his fascination. These athletes are amazing, and their stories even more inspiring. This mom applauds this show for teaching my little one about overcoming obstacles and the importance of physical fitness.

This summer, we have participated in the Mini Ninja class at Iron Sports - the training center of MANY ninjas including my son's two favorites, Sam Sann and Daniel Gil.

If you are in the Houston area and are looking for something awesome for your kiddos, look no further than this class. If you are not in the area, I guarantee you there's a gym nearby since this show has become the phenomenon it is. We even had my son's last birthday party here, and this mommy ninja tried the Jumping Spider. Despite the hair chaos, I LOVED IT (and landed it #thankyouverymuch). They even have boot camp classes too - I just may need to overcome some fears and give it a go.

For the Mini Ninja Class, there are options for you to attend. You can stay and watch (which I HIGHLY recommend) or drop them off and get some errands done while they ninja their way around the gym.

Pricing is as follows:

1 Class a week $50

2 Classes a week $90

3 Classes a week $132

4 Classes a week $172

($10 off 2nd child, $15 off 3rd)

First Time Trial: $12

Drop In: $18

$158 for 10 Punch Card

Check HERE for dates/times

 My son and his favorite ninja, Daniel Gil. He's doing well again this season,

and we are rooting for him to go all the way.

We still have so many things left on the bucket list, but we have plenty of time for more ninja-ing and more fun. Check out Iron Sports, Houston friends. And watch the show with your kids - these participants are some great models.

NOTE: my mini-mini ninja toddler wishes there was a class for her, but she does try her hardest to participate too. One day, little sister.

What have you checked off your summer bucket list?
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Houston friends, do you want more ideas on what to do in our area this summer?
Check out Big Kid Small City  for resources, calendars, and events.

Why I Want To Delete TimeHop

Forgive me as I am having one of those "moments." For those grieving or struggling, it's one of those out of nowhere moments that just come unexpectedly. TimeHop shared a memory with me last week where, four years ago, I had announced I was changing jobs. My brother commented with "Proud of you. Love you."

And then there it was. A swift kick to the heart. He can't comment like that anymore.

This week, TimeHop shared last year's first posts/pictures about my weight loss. If I am being candid, I am not there as I once was. And, it's been a STRUGGLE.

And there it was again. Another TimeHop reminder that life has changed.

Last May, I started my blog with a post about change. My body had changed so much since babies, and I had worked so hard to see success. I felt great; I felt strong. Then, life says, "just kidding, strong one. Here's a doozy." Enter my new normal - new anxiety and new worry, and the weight came back.

But, with encouragement from my doctor, I had to try some things to keep the worry at bay. In this season of grief, I have two kids who need their mom. I have NO choice but to keep going even when I want to cry and hide. I NEEDED help to be a better mom in this new season of life.

And TimeHop's reminders of life one year ago won't take away the fact that I know I need to be better. Even though being better is taking time.

When you experience the death of a loved one, the life before that loss suddenly seems foreign. And when these flashbacks come up, you are suddenly reminded that parts of that life are no longer; that today is so different. Then, you get that in-your-face reminder that the world is still going while you are holding on for dear life. It can make you feel a bit abandoned - your world isn't like what TimeHop is reminding you of each day. This reminder stings.

While I am not seeing the physical victories I did one year ago, and life is nowhere near where it was, I HAVE to remind myself daily that this is life now. One year ago is no longer in my control - as if life ever is. It's the now that I HAVE to work with and make important. And y'all, I am trying so hard. Grief is not new for me; God will provide just as He has when I lost someone close to me in 1999 and my dad in 2002.

Image Via Lock in Life

And while TimeHop is making me a bit weepy, I am trying SO hard to remember these things.

Though my body has changed, I need to meet myself where I am. And be kind.

In this season of life, I need the help I'm getting to process grief. And that's okay.

God gave me my kids for ME to mother so I need to keep fighting for them.

This grief story is my own. How I grieve is not "by the book" or the mirror of someone else's.

I am not abandoned; God is always, always with me even when I feel like no one else is.

TimeHop will not deter these daily thoughts.

When I started this little blog, I wanted to promote health and fitness. Those feelings will never change because I see the benefits daily. But, my course has changed a bit. It's the mental well being of the busy mom who keeps pushing that is so important to me right now.

I went to the doctor today for a regular check-up, and she asked how I've been. Poor thing. She got an earful. It just wasn't one of my good days, but I am thankful she had such an amazing bedside manner and really listened. Then, I was able to speak to my dear friend Jess who reminded me I am not alone or abandoned. TimeHop can't take these things away from me. Nothing really can.

I just need a minute to be in the now. Not back then. Sure, I love my babies little and I like some of the glimpse of the past, but I love what's right in front of me too. Delete that silly app if it brings you sadness or, hell, delete whatever is in your life that hurts right now. You can always come back to it when YOU feel ready.

That's where grief has led me right now. Today and all the new days that follow.

Recipe Round-Up

Confession: I need to get some eating habits under control. I LOVE FOOD - especially when I don't have to cook it. On the weekends, we can indulge a little too much so when Monday comes, I feel so motivated to start fresh and start clean. And then the cycle repeats. This weekend was no exception - queso, tacos, and birthday cake. I don't like to beat myself up over my choices because I do believe in moderation, but sometimes, I don't like how I feel after too many treats.

So, here's a new week, and I am rounding up some of our recent favorites. Some are clean, some are not-so-clean, but they are made in my own kitchen and sometimes with our garden ingredients. I'll miss my beloved Mexican food, but these are good replacements. Here's what's cooking this week.

Taco Stuffed Avocados by  Clean Food Crush

Healthy Kung Pao Chicken by  Fit Food Finds

Roasted Sweet Potato and Black Bean Quesadillas by  The Pretty Bee

Easy Veggie and Garlic Pasta by  Always A New Day

These meals all come highly recommended - they have been in our dinner rotation this summer and make great leftovers. And our garden has been abundant so we will add in our fresh peppers and tomatoes when possible. Highly recommend growing your own produce too - such a great family activity plus delish and healthy. I am thinking my hubs needs to write a post on how our garden has been successful this year.

And I've been thinking how I can avoid those unhealthy choices over the weekend, and I am going to switch my grocery day to Friday and include the weekend in my meal prep/planning. What do you do to keep on track during the weekends?

In my dream world, I'd have a nutritionist and a chef to help me be better. But, in the real world, I'll go with Pinterest and the help of some healthy, fit friends!

Have a great week, friends. If you try these recipes, let me know what you think!

The Healthy Mama Series - Meet Amanda

My  Healthy Mama Series keeps exceeding my expectations. These precious ladies are so inspiring not to mention motivating. But what do we do after read these amazing stories? How do we get that motivation to get up and keep going? I think Amanda Ah Sue has the answers. She is joining the series today to push all of us - with a free printable too! 

For me, I love a good workout and squeeze one in most days (for my sanity), but there are other areas where I need a push. I keep putting off big plans because of fear. This post may push me to try harder - so wherever you are in your goals, Amanda wants to help. This post is coming at the right time.

Motivation can be such a beast! You know what to do, but you just can’t get yourself to do it, right? You should be eating better – you should exercise, but you just don’t want to. You’ve lost that motivation to get going.

Why? Because it hasn’t worked in the past?

That doesn’t mean you can’t succeed now. You can absolutely have the healthy, sustainable lifestyle you want! Motivation has 4 steps that make those healthy changes realistic:

Purpose

Your purpose is your foundation. It will become your drive and push you forward when you want to quit.

How exactly do you find your purpose?
Dig deep! Honestly evaluate what you really want. Do you want to look like those pictures you keep liking on Instagram? Or do you just want to feel more confident wearing shorts?

What impacts the personal, family, social, professional and spiritual aspects of your life? Striking a balance between these will help solidify your foundation. It basically lets you layer your sources of motivation so you have several things pushing you forward when you want to quit.

If you’re ready to hone in on your purpose, download your free motivation worksheet.

Accountability

We can all agree that nothing happens without taking action, right? It’s important to have a solid foundation, set your goals and make your plans. However, it’s all talk until you do something about it.

Accountability can act as the bridge between “knowing” and “doing.” There’s no right or wrong way to be accountable.

Here are a few examples of ways to stay accountable:

Yourself: calendar, reminders, phone, journal
Partner: regular check-ins, workout partner, exchanging knowledge
Groups: lots of knowledge, group goals, multiple accountability partners

We all respond differently, so find what works for you and stick to it.

Focus

Have you ever tried to walk on a balance beam? Think about what it takes to do it:

Clear your mind.
Look at the bar.
Get on the bar.
Raise your head slowly.
Look straight ahead.
Raise your arms for added balance.
Start walking forward.

You can picture it, can’t you?

Now, what would happen if the scenario was slightly different?

All of your friends are around. You get up on the bar. Your kids are begging for your attention. You hear your phone ring. You take one step forward. Someone behind you yells your name. A whole lot of chaos and a lot less likely you’re going to walk that beam, right?

So what was the difference?

You were focused on everything else around you, you stopped looking at the beam and you stopped using your arms for additional balance.

What does that have to do with a healthy lifestyle?

In order to stay motivated, you have to clear your mind, keep your eye on your goal and use the resources you already have.

Longevity

I’m sure your goal is NEVER to fail after 14 days. Who would EVER do that!? Unfortunately that doesn’t change the fact that too often, we turn to boring, bland diets – only to be disappointed when our results don’t stick.

Here’s the thing: if you want different results, you need a different approach!

Instead of asking “How do I get the fastest results?”

Ask this: “How do I get long-term results?”

When it comes to a healthy changes, my general rule of thumb is that if you can’t do it for the rest of your life, you probably shouldn’t do it.

I know you have the motivation to kick-start your healthy lifestyle, but in case you want some extra help, I created a free motivation worksheet just for you. You can do this!

Amanda is an average, busy 30 year old, works full-time and tries to keep a balanced life. She started blogging because she was sick of seeing her friends and family get frustrated by diets and intense from the start programs that didn’t work. She’s determined to help other busy women create realistic, healthy lifestyles on their own. She’s not a trainer, but lost 30 lbs on her own, has sustained a healthy lifestyle for 5+ years and wants to teach you to do the same.

Do yourself a favor and follow her! Her tips and motivation will help you make that change you need.  Thank you for sharing, Amanda!

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My First Blogger Workshop

In April, some Houston bloggers announced they were partnering to hold a workshop on the wonders of Pinterest. Being fairly new to this blogging gig, I knew right away that I wanted to attend - there's SO much to learn, and I am often behind the game. I purchased my ticket knowing it would be so beneficial to my blogging knowledge. And, I am all for a day away with some amazing ladies.

The verdict? It far exceeded my expectations. Having never attended any workshop AND not feeling adequate enough (yeah, I said that. Damn you,  anxiety), I was nervous the day of the event. Yet, I knew learning about Pinterest would help so much as I try to grow. Without sharing the tricks and trades (seriously - go to an event - you'll love it), I just want to share with new bloggers about my experience.

Before I started my blog, I followed other bloggers in my area - through social media and with their content, I found myself connecting to them - mom life, great recipes, hilarious real life stories, raw moments, etc. These mamas have SO much to offer as you develop your blogging voice. When Meg and Moms Without Answers announced this workshop, I set my alarm to purchase a ticket. Fast forward two months, and the workshop happens as does the awe, amazement, and community that comes with it. Follow some local ladies and see if/when they have any workshops/conferences you can attend. And go!

And when you go, be prepared. I came armed with my planner, a notepad, and my computer and used each item accordingly. The best part was getting one on one help with these experts who were able to help solve problems this newbie had been working on for months! Next up, I would love to attend a blogger conference - I can only imagine all the knowledge I would gain. I am on the lookout for anything up and coming.

I will say being that scared little newbie was obvious at times. I didn't know many people, but I was welcomed with open arms. As I can do in new social surroundings, I was quiet - simply taking in all the information and expertise - Pinterest-related and other great tips. And being new to the workshop world, I definitely did not know about the swag. Holy Kendra Scott! There were treats everywhere we turned. Since this workshop was my first, I simply was amazed. See for yourself.

Special thanks to Faison Anne for the pictures. You can see all her great work here:
www.faisonannephotography.com
Facebook: Faison Anne Photography
Instagram: @faisonanne

Make sure to follow the hashtag #performonpinterest to see other photos from the event. If there is ever another event like this one, you must go!

Thanks again, Meg, Channing, and Michelle. You made my first blogger workshop one to remember. I hope there will be another so others can learn all that Pinterest offers - there is such value in women helping women.

And dinner at Vallone's was an added bonus :)

The Healthy Mama Series - Meet Megan

This post in my Healthy Mama Series has special meaning for me. Megan is my trainer, but she's become so much more than that - she is my dear friend, prayer buddy, and encourager. When we workout, we counsel one another and cheer on each other in good times and bad.

I am so honored to share her story. Her story is WHY I make fitness a priority - when your body can change and get stronger, it translates into so much more.  Your mental health improves. You improve. Megan's story has not been without heartache and struggle, and I can't wait for her to inspire you.

I am extremely honored to be asked to share my story with you. Health and fitness have become a huge part of who I am, but it certainly didn’t start out that way. My journey began from a need to be more than just physically healthy. My mental health was terrible and getting worse by the day.

Unfortunately, addiction has touched the lives of many, and it is a big part of how my story starts.  I am a mother of two beautiful daughters, and I also struggled with a dependency to alcohol and with severe depression and anxiety. The alcoholism made me gain a weight because 1. I didn’t care about myself and 2. beer and wine have many calories! Once I got help and stopped drinking, the real battle began.

With nothing to mask the depression, I had to face it head on. Panic attacks and all. I could hardly face the grocery store alone - so the gym? Forget it! Not knowing what to do, I decided to start running bleachers. I thought if I started to lose weight, I might start to feel better about myself. Then maybe - just maybe - the depression and panic attacks would stop. After all, my girls deserve to have a happy, healthy mom. I had to make a change. As it turns out, that one decision to try something different changed everything for me.

The bleachers were a building block. They set the foundation to show me I am capable of change AND that I don’t have to be that sad, isolated person anymore. Hitting the bleachers even when I didn’t want to helped break through the mental barriers that held me back in other areas of my life. Sometimes you just have to fake it ‘til you make it, and that’s what I did. Having my daughters there to watch Mommy be strong was a huge motivator. They need to see me take care of myself. I wanted them to know it’s good to love yourself and take pride in your accomplishments. I stuck with the bleachers for about 6 months until I had shed about 35 pounds.

Let’s be honest - life can be a crazy, loopy roller coaster ride. But for the most part,  I never gave up on eating right and working out. It made a tremendous difference in my depression. I did eventually break down and seek medical help for it, and the doctor strongly encouraged me to keep after my physical health. For the first time in as long as I could remember, I cared about myself and decided to join a local outdoor fit camp.

On the days I didn’t really want to work out, I was still motivated to go because I built relationships with the other fit campers. I wanted to hang out with these new people who became my friends. My kids went with me. The boot camp became family.

After a year of attending, the owner asked me to start a camp in my area. WHO ME? Someone wanted me to LEAD my own boot camp? I was terrified, but I knew I had to do it. This experience brought so much to my life that all I wanted to do was help other moms build their confidence too.

Soon, I was certified as an NASM Personal Trainer and began teaching my own class, Fit for Life - Boot Camp. The girl no one would have ever expected. I am now in the best shape of my life; I have the most amazing bond with my daughters: and I have built friendships I could have never dreamed of having before this transition. To me, these bonds are why health and fitness are more than just looking good.

There is so much out there that life has to offer and sometimes all we need is a little confidence and motivation to be able to go out there and grab it. Society seems to do nothing but teach us to compare ourselves to others and to tear each other down. Fitness is an outlet I want to use to change those feelings. I want all of our children to grow up knowing they are beautiful inside and out. What better place to learn that than from their mom?

We don’t need to compare our insides to each other’s outside. None of us are on the same journey. Let’s be there for each other and be accountable to one another so we can be the happiest, healthiest version of ourselves. Let’s get Fit for Life!

I want to close in saying that if you battle with depression, anxiety and/or addiction, I pray you will reach out. If not first to a doctor, then talk to a friend and know you are not alone!

And a big THANK YOU to Kim for being an amazingly dedicated client, dear friend (and cheerleader) and for giving me this opportunity to share a piece of myself with all of you. God Bless!

Thank you, Megan, for sharing your story. As always, you inspire, encourage, and love - such a great example for all the busy moms out there.

To see more of this series, click the link at the top of the blog to read all the amazing stories of women who have changed their lives for the better. As Megan states here, a transition can occur mentally as well as physically. If you have a story to share, please contact me. We need to keep learning from each other.

Simple Father's Day Ideas

Father's Day is just around the corner, and the kids are ready to celebrate the best guy they know. This day can be hard - and will be hard yet again this year - but, my husband works so hard and loves with all he has. We want to shower him with that love right back! The problem is - he is HARD when it comes to gifts and such. He is a simple man and will say he doesn't need a thing. So, we are planning an easy day of fun, sun, and family. Here's how you can plan a simple Father's Day for your simple guy, too.

{Make sure you check out all of the great links I've shared in today's post - so many good ideas and gift guides to help make this day simple for you as well}

Follow his interests.

My hubby loves to work in his shop and be outdoors. We could get him the latest gadget at Home Deport, but I bet I'd buy the wrong thing. And, I bet he has most tools a man could ever need. He can do without dinners out or big celebrations, so we are staying put. The pool. The grill. The kids. That's all he wants. But, maybe your hubs wants adventure or a nice dinner out. If that's for him, look for a fun kid-friendly restaurant and have some fun. Just ask what he would like to do and go!

Involve the kids.

My son is so excited for Father's Day as he knows it's the perfect day to tell his dad how great he is. He knows Dad wants some fun in the sun, so he came up with a great idea to get him this Pool Basketball Hoop to add to our day. I love that his little guy came up with this gift all on his own - the excitement itself will make the best present.

Or, get crafty. We have made some cute Father's Day gifts in the past, so we are searching for some more. Their dad loves to display any handmade gift in his office for the world to see, and when the kids visit, they love seeing their work, and their dad showing it off for his coworkers. Check out these links for some easy Father's Day gifts the kids can do.

Father's Day Printable

Father's Day Handprint/Footprint Crafts

Make his favorite treat.

Baking is the way to my guy's heart, and he has some specific favorites. Most importantly, anything pineapple and anything cheesecake. Through a recent link-up, I found these treats that will make him drool.

Pineapple Cheesecakes

Take it easy.

Sundays are made for rest, and that's just what this dad needs. He works long hours yet comes home to kids who barely let him in the door to unwind from his crazy day. Yet, he never complains - just picks them up making their whole world better. He gives to us day in and day out, so if he wants a simple day at home, that's just what he's going to get!

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If you are looking for a bit more, check out the following Father's Day Gift Guides. These great ideas are perfect for any dad.

Seven Graces - Father's Day Wish List

My Kind of Sweet - Father's Day Gift Guide

The Home Loving Wife - The Ultimate Father's Day Gift Guide

Image via Juggling Act Mama

Happy Father's Day to all the great dads out there! And to those who have fathers in Heaven, my love and prayers are with all of you.

And, you may have noticed some changes around here. I am SO excited to clean up this space and make it more classic and simple. Special thanks to  Get Polished for the new design - Chelsea was great to work with and helped a great deal. Highly recommend!

What do you think? Change is good :)

How To Get Out Of The Mom Funk

Oh heavens, it's been a whole week out of school and while we are enjoying some freedom, there's been some laziness. These lazy days are much needed, but I'm ready to tackle my Summer Bucket List and simply get out of the mom funk stat. I'm not talking big events and adventures every single day; I just need to snap out of the tired and into the fun.

What do you do when you are feeling tired and funky? I'm about to put my best practices to work and wanted to share some with all of you. Here's what's about to happen up in the Reed casa.

Get Up Earlier.

Now, I am not talking 5 am - just get up a bit before the kids. I don't know about you, but when I have a kid in my face before I can come to consciousness, it startles me into the day. I like a slow wake-up so I can stretch, pray, and drink my beloved coffee. Another great tip - make your bed. Most days, making my bed is the only cleaning I get done so it makes me feel like I conquered the world.

Move It. Move It.

Fitness gets my blood pumping and reminds me how strong I am. But, to be honest, my early morning workouts aren't happening. Mama wants to sleep in on summer days too. Then what? Join a gym with free child care. Swim. Go for an evening stroll. Meet friends at the park and chase those kids around.  If you can find a tough boot camp class, fitness class at the gym, or CrossFit, go try it. A good, strength training workout does wonders not just for your body but for that tired mama mind too.

Get Creative.

This one is tough for me because I am not much of a DIY'er though I try! Writing is my creative outlet, and when it's nap/rest time, that's just what I do. I love coming to my little blog and getting words out - I can't paint or knit to save my life, but I feel creative when I write. In fact, this blog means so much to me because of its therapy that I am about to change up things. Can't wait for what's in store in my little corner.

But, maybe you're craftier than me - tackle that DIY project you've been thinking of for so long. Involve your kids too - a great summer activity is sitting outside in the late afternoon and going crazy with sidewalk chalk. When you can get those creative juices going, it's a mood-booster. Pinterest is the hub for all things creative - pin some favorites and get going.

Get Dressed.

For 12 years, I got up each morning, dressed for work, and hit the road. When I started staying at home, I fell into my comfy yoga pants and that messy mom bun.  I am 100% in support of this get-up, but there are some days I need to feel like a human - not just a tired mom. Just a cute casual graphic tee can work or maybe a simple sundress. I don't have much of a make-up routine, but when I put on a little something with my comfy casualwear, I feel tons better. It's just finding that time to get dressed before this little one hits the ground running. Another good reason to get up a bit earlier too!

Get Out.

Now, you're dressed. You've got a touch of something on your face. Go do something. A park trip, a lunch date (where are my Chick Fil A moms??), take the kids to the library, grab a frap and walk around Target. Anything to get out and see the world. I do love our lazy pajama days at home, but when you get out, it expands those four walls that sometimes get a little too close and affect our moods. Like in my bucket list, we plan on one big adventure each week, and while it will be HOT, I know we will need to see the world around us.

I would love to hear how you get out of your slumps. Routines? Can't live without life hacks? I will take all the advice I can get - let's share!