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Self-Care with Smile Brilliant

This post has been sponsored by Smile Brilliant. As always, the thoughts and opinions expressed in this post are 100% my own. Thank you for supporting Always A New Day.

I love a good product that will help me feel better as a busy mom - especially this close to 40! Shopping (alone) is one of my favorite things to do, but when I am with the littles, I just grab what I can find and go. In this blogging world, I have learned so much about self-care - because when we look good, we FEEL good from the outside in!

A couple of years ago, I splurged and whitened my teeth through my dentist. Sad to say, but those trays were quite a bit of work and did not yield any results. Round two of whitening my grill was so much different! I am so excited to share Smile Brilliant with you and how it worked for this desperate mama. And stay tuned until the end - you could win a little something for yourself.

The Teeth Whitening System kit includes instructions/materials to make your molds, syringes for whitening/desensitizing, and an envelope to mail your molds to then receive custom trays.

My molds came back in a timely manner, and I couldn't wait to get started. I do have sensitive teeth, but the desensitizing gel you apply first definitely helps any issues you may have once you apply the whitening gel. For my first whitening session, I left the trays in for 30 minutes then gradually moved up to 2 hours a session once my teeth felt comfortable. As Smile Brilliant suggests, I whitened at night - after the kids went to bed, and I had some quiet. I would put in my trays and relax while I caught up on shows or blogged.

The whitening and desensitizing syringes last quite a while so I did not have any issues with running out of either. In fact, Smile Brilliant did offer to send more if needed, but it was not necessary. I am so pleased with my results - definitely more noticeable than my dentist's trays/system. I completed my whitening time in 12 days and will continue to do every few days to finish up my experience.

Ready to join in this self-care experience? If you are like me, it's hard to splurge on yourself when you have to take care of so many others. But, friends, this system is WORTH it. And Smile Brilliant wants to help you with a giveaway!

You could win your own kit to get started on your whitening journey. All you have to do is enter HERE and a winner will be chosen in 2 weeks. Who is ready for a brighter smile in 2017?

You can also use the code ALWAYSANEWDAY to receive 5% off your order for an entire year. Winning!

Not only did my smile get bigger and whiter, but this company has a heart for making people feel good about themselves. And, I am all over a mama feeling beautiful any day of the year!

Courtesy of Smile Brilliant


Writing Your New Year's Resolutions

I just found last year's resolution post about my 2016 plans. Wow. To be honest, it sounded like a stranger wrote them. When my brother passed away in mid-January life changed. And it's still changing.

Now, I am sitting down to think about 2017. It has to be better - just has to be. I don't want to write down too many resolutions because I feel anxiety if I don't make each one happen. But, I do need to write because writing will always be therapy for me. So, I am creating more honest resolutions this year and want to share my template with you.

We are a week shy of the New Year, and some recent down days are trying to push me in a dark hole, but instead, I am giving myself an assignment. I need a good brain dump - mine is swirling with what ifs and what could be for the next year. I may even have a touch of the post-holiday blues - the excitement and buzz are winding down, and those things have been good distractions for grief/anxiety. So here it goes - some thoughts to consider when thinking of the year ending as well as plans for the new one beginning:

  • List the highlights of 2016. What did they teach you?
  • List the hard parts of 2016. What did they teach you?
  • What are you most proud of from 2016?
  • How do you plan to continue that success?
  • Make a physical goal for 2017 (eat better, get leaner, eat out less, try new recipes, try a new workout)
  • Make a mental goal for 2017 (worry less, show more affection towards others, be more generous with your time, sleep more, say 'no' more)

Use this guide as you dump out your thoughts for next year but make them realistic for you. My wish is that all of us busy, tired moms will take more time to remember the person behind all of the duties and obligations - think about what you want for this new year. You can bet I am doing just that because I NEED this year to be good. I need to turn the page to something more.

When I read my resolutions from last year and read about my clean eating plans (hahahahaha) and how I would eliminate anxiety once and for all, it was almost comical. Life had other plans and those plans sure did stink up the place, I am a worrier. I just need to fight harder to not let the worry take over. Grief is going to come in waves, and I will surround myself with all of my highlights and proud moments - my family, my friends, and my sweet readers.

I'd love to hear from you - what are some of your highlights from this year? What do you hope for in 2017?


5 Ways to Practice Reading At Home + A Bookroo Review

I received a Bookroo Box in exchange for an honest review. As always, all opinions are 100 % my own. Thanks for supporting Always A New Day!

Confession: my son should be reading twenty minutes each night. Truth: by the time he's finished his homework and/or his toddler sister has crawled off said homework, Mom is OUT. But, here's the reality - he's getting older and reading is critical not just in school but in life. I want him to not only be a strong reader but to LOVE reading. Time to up my game at home.

And, I am a former English teacher. Granted,  I taught high school, but the skills I can practice with him are the same ones I used with my students. It's a new year, and it's time to be more intentional. My dad passed his love of reading on to me, and I hope to do the same with my kids using these 5 ways to practice and incorporate reading at home.

Utilize Daily Tasks

Words are everywhere! When shopping with your kids, have them read the grocery list to you or have them read signs as you drive. Or, better yet - make yourself a little mobile library. Gather your favorite books and keep them in your car. My son will even read girly books to his sister as we are out and about. It can be a lifesaver to this crazed mom!

Create A Routine

I am talking to myself on this one. By the time bedtime rolls around, I just want to put them to sleep and be quiet. We have been slacking on the books before bed, and I am missing a great opportunity. My son could grab a book or two and take his twenty minutes to read us all a story.

My kids were SO excited to get a package last week from Bookroo - a great company who wants to empower parents to build their children's book collections in an affordable and exciting way through monthly book deliveries These colorful books have been on repeat this week. And though the picture books we chose are geared towards the toddler years, big brother graciously offered to read and re-read this sweet book to his sister. If we can get this routine to keep on going (with all love and no bickering - #praying), both kids will benefit.

Let Them Choose

We love our local library, and my son can navigate his way around now that he knows where certain interests are. He is currently loving any non-fiction piece about the NFL. He may not be reading tough stuff, but he is reading and teaching me more about the game. He even gave me a quiz yesterday :)

Maybe your little one has a favorite book he/she loves to read over and over. That's still a great learning moment for them, but what about variety? That's the beauty of Bookroo - you're going to get new titles that will perk their imaginations more than ever. And if you do receive a book you already have, they will give you $5 off your next subscription. Win-win!

Talk About It

Before you even open the book, look at the title and predict the story. Use the artwork to summarize. Ask them questions about characters, setting, conflict, etc... These conversations will prepare them for school since they will focus on these topics throughout their school years. And when you talk about a book, you get to hear those little imaginations and brains getting stronger - what is better than that?

Listening to my son "teach" this book to his little sister was a really sweet moment. Her book love is growing, and when she has someone read to her, she's pretty smitten.

Be An Example

My dad was never without a book. He would end one only to pick up another right after. Before kids, I did that, too. I even would read books over and over again. Post-kids is a different story. I need to get back to reading and show my kids I still read, and I still learn. I hope my example will rub off on them just as my dad's did to me. With big brother being five years older than his sis, he's definitely an example for her.

How do you incorporate reading into your busy schedules? Bookroo would love to help give the gift of reading. Head over and begin your subscription. Your kids will love these sweet packages that arrive just for them.

And if you do find something that works for you, just use the code: KIMREED at checkout to receive $10 off your first subscription! Also, be sure to check out Bookroo on social media to see all the fun they offer.

My English teacher heart is in Heaven. Happy reading, friends!


A Casual Holiday Dress + A Giveaway

This post has been sponsored by Chicks Picks Boutique. Affiliate links also used.
As always, the thoughts and opinions expressed in this post are 100% my own.

A fashion blogger, I am not, but anything fun for the busy, tired mama? Yes, please! That's why I need to share this dress and more of this boutique. It's no secret that Chicks Picks Boutique is my go-to for kicking up the wardrobe. There are many reasons I love getting my clothes here, and the most important is the owner. Christina is a dear friend from elementary school; and our dads were buddies. We have some sweet memories of growing up, and I love supporting someone who has always supported me! And the clothes...oh the clothes. I have dresses, leggings, and tops I adore.
Lately, I am loving this floral dress courtesy of Chicks Picks. Who says you can't wear floral for the holidays? Need a dress for Christmas Eve or maybe even New Year's Eve? This one is perfect - not to mention the pockets make it even more fun! Most of the pieces you will find in this cute shop are so versatile for the busy mama. Just another reason to love Christina and her pieces.

And for the GIVEAWAY! Chicks Picks is giving away a $25 gift card to one lucky reader.

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2. Leave ONE comment on this post sharing what you would purchase
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For more holiday fun, don't forget to check out these posts - Christmas is just around the corner!

A Gift Guide for the Deserving Mom

4 Must-Haves for the Perfect Night In

Last-Minute Christmas Gifts


The Definition of Friendship

Another week goes by; more families experiencing loss. I wanted to repost this definition of friendship. My heart is aching, and I can only imagine the hearts of those who have lost a loved one this week. My hope is that you will read this and remember anyone you know who is hurting. Be a forever friend.

It's mid-September; fall is starting to show itself a little at a time. Football games and all things pumpkin define this time of year. You're busy with kids' sports and school carnivals. You've got fun plans most weekends, and you can't wait for those comfort foods to warm you through brisk weather. In the middle of all of this change, a loss this last week made me stop the hustle and pray. My heart is heavy for a sweet mom who just lost her battle with cancer. I had only met her once through my sweet friend, Laura. Yet, when I heard of her passing, I immediately thought of her sweet little ones. Her husband. Her loved ones. Then, I thought of her friends. They fought along side her; they loved her and her family. They prayed and shared and supported. Now, they are hurting.

I recently lost a friend to cancer in March. I bet that cancer has touched the life of someone you know as well. The words I want to say about this awful disease are not pleasant. If there is one thing I HATE, it's THIS stupid thing that takes away so many amazing people. Yet, I also witness the power of friendship during these horribly hard times. Thank you to Laura and Jeri for being so amazing to Amy and for inspiring me. My prayers for you girls are never ceasing.

Life is NOT easy. Adult life is TOO much at times. We lose, we stress, we worry. We can get lost in our own worlds. Oh man, I am SO guilty of this - I can rock a pity party like nobody's business. After a long day, I can shut down. Shut out all those that love me. I can get angry that nobody knows my hurt. I can get completely selfish. But it's a loss like Amy that snaps me back into reality. You would think knowing the pain of loss would have done that long ago.

So, today, in honor of Amy and in honor of those friends who are hurting, reach out to your friends. Forgive the silliness. Stop the silence. Send them this message that Amy sent her friend Jeri this past summer. It's beautiful, and it's the true definition of friendship.

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times and the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend holds your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end.

Jeri, Laura, and all of Amy's friends and loved ones, you are in our hearts and prayers.


Last-Minute Christmas Gifts {Photo Gifts From Mpix}

This sponsored post is coming at a great time for gift-giving. I'm so thankful for the products c/o Mpix! As always, all opinions and expressions are 100% my own.

ALERT: Mom, if you reading this post, stop here. I am sharing just a couple of your well-deserved treats this year and don't want to ruin any surprises!

I love giving photos as gifts - especially to the grandmas!. Since my fab photographer takes great care in getting so many good ones, I want a quality photo printer to keep the life and love in each photo. Mpix is where I go to order these copies, and if you need some last-minute gifts, Mpix offers so many sweet and sentimental options. And I can say with complete confidence that they always provide the best quality over their competitors.

My mom loves receiving family prints to proudly display in her home. She has quite the knack for arranging and framing each photo. My sweet mama NEVER forgets a birthday as she writes down each occasion as well as stays organized with her appointments and such. What better gift can I give her than a calendar of some perfect photos?

This calendar from Mpix is going to be a big hit. I downloaded my favorites from our shoot and moved them into their calendar template - SO EASY. My favorite part? I paid close attention to May (her birthday) and my kids' birthday months by adding special shots that commemorated that month.

I chose the binding on top, 12x18 calendar option. This calendar is large, but I love how much focus is on the photo itself. You can customize yours with colors, texts, and background options.

Next up on my Christmas gift list are these precious ornaments. The only hard task in creating these is that they are SO many options - shapes, colors, and Christmas greetings. They are metal die-cut ornaments that come with a cute ribbon for hanging. I can bet you my mom won't store these keepsakes - they will remain out all year!

I chose the Good Tidings in blue as well as the Chic Wishes.

If you have a photo-lover in your family, hurry over and create your personalized calendar, ornaments, or any photo gift. You can bet you will receive high quality products that your loved one will treasure. Pin these gift idea for finalizing your holiday gift list!
Don't forget to treat yourself too by looking over my gift guide for the deserving mama. It's not too late to snatch a little something for yourself.

Happy shopping and HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

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A Note To Those Who Are Grieving {Especially At Christmas}

When I was a child, we spent Christmas at my grandmother’s house in Louisiana. Her small yet cozy home held my family as well as my three uncles, their wives, and their children. Eventually, my brother’s boys joined the crew. We would attend mass early on Christmas Eve then head to Maw-Maw’s for a gift exchange, the best food, and a good time together.

I can still see her tree that housed too many presents; I can taste the honey baked ham, her gumbo, and her potato salad. Since she didn’t have a fireplace, she pulled out this replica that unfolded to show red brick and a fire made of cardboard. We would giggle at the silver duct tape holding it together after years and years of use. It was her in living room on Christmas Eve that I got my first tiny camera, a surprise ticket to see my favorite boy band, and a CD player for my first car. I can also hear my uncle grunting HO HO HO one year as he appeared as Santa, frightening the smaller cousins.

As I write these words, I am sitting in my living room on a rainy day. I look up and see lights on my real fireplace mantle. My little one is napping, and it’s quiet. Thinking of Maw Maw’s precious, inviting home makes me smile because I am blessed those memories exist. Then, I have my moment where I think of how much has changed. My beautiful Maw Maw. My awesome dad. My big brother. All in my memory but not with us this Christmas. Up and down, I go again.

On Sunday, I attended a candlelight remembrance service for family members to attend, say their deceased loved one’s names out loud, and light a candle in his/her honor. The preacher spoke. The hymns played. Their faces displayed for everyone to see. In that moment, just as I am having now, I think of all the change since we taped our stockings on that cardboard fireplace. My mom and I sat there; she had her tissue, and to be honest, I pouted like a toddler. Why does life have to be THIS? I didn’t want to sing Christmas carols or light my candle for a memory. Stinging, bitter thoughts, and I let myself feel it all.

Returning home afterwards, I had two beautiful faces greet me as I drove in the driveway. My oldest knew where I was and gave me a hug that squeezed out the pouting and the sting. My littlest - who does not know how hard the world can be – grins like her best friend just came home. I had felt the hurt a few hours before, but I now felt the joy and the life I am supposed to be living.

If you are grieving this holiday season for memories past or for a loved one no longer here, I have no tips or how to’s to make this Christmas easy for you. What I do know is this – feel it all. From the hurt to the joy that can come almost simultaneously. From the sadness to the blessings. From the old memories to the fun of creating the new ones.

You DO NOT have a timeline for grief. You are the only one who knows your journey. But, when you feel like pouting or shouting the frustrations you feel, DIG SO DEEP to find what is good. You may be missing a huge piece of your heart, but there is so much good. For me, it’s the face of my two biggest gifts. It’s my husband who is celebrating a big birthday this month. It’s my brother’s two boys who are the BEST young adults I know and who text me often to say they love me. How can I stay sad when I have all of that?

I can guarantee you I will have my moments this Christmas. I loved giving my dad gifts. I love the practical jokes my brother use to play. I love hearing my Maw Maw sing in church. Those things will be missed enormously. And if I want to cry, I will. I may have a good ugly one, and you may, too.

Let's just promise each other to get in there; dig around. Find that good. And while you're searching, know you are not alone. I am digging right alongside you.


The Best Tip for Visiting Napa Valley

Napa Valley has been my dream destination for quite some time. And with a big birthday rolling around (40 GASP!), I desperately wanted to make it happen. We began planning earlier this year, and thanks to my Napa gurus (Hi Jill,  Kristy, and Kerry) - our itinerary was set.

There are over 500 vineyards in the area and with limited time, we wanted to go to a few big ones but preferred the quiet, less touristy places. Another thing we knew we wanted to do was set aside free time to explore. If you are or someone you know ever has plans for Napa, Sonoma, Yountville or the surrounding areas, I URGE you to get a driver. Susan at  My Napa Valley Driver was easily the BEST part of our vacation, and she is simply my BEST tip for vacationing in Napa Valley.

A driver in Napa - especially with this company - will make your trip livelier, more inviting, and safe. Susan was amazing for so many reasons.

The Hidden Gems

On our first full day with her, we were starving at lunchtime. We had some suggestions from friends, but Susan asked to take us to her favorite place. When we pulled up to La Luna, we saw it was an old gas station/convenience store. She swore they had the best quesadillas and tacos. These Texans were up for the challenge! I can easily say these were the BEST authentic, cheesy quesadillas I have ever had. We are still talking about it - and we live in the land of Tex-Mex!

Later that afternoon, she insisted we take a coffee break. If you know my love of coffee, you know I couldn't resist. Oakville Grocery Co. was the epitome of coffee house heaven. I ordered the SEA SALT CARAMEL LATTE because WHAT?! Paired with a lemon tart, that afternoon treat hit the spot. I miss that coffee everyday.

On our last day with her, we had some extra time before dinner, so she took us to another vineyard for a quick tasting. Without her knowing the ways around and the best places to see, we may have missed this chance - and who wants to miss a chance with wine? Not me.

The Pictures

We had our phones ready for captures - we documented the scenery and our awe of the vineyards. But, with Susan, she pretty much did it for us. While we did our tastings, she would come in every now and then to snap a photo. This way, we could relax at trying to capture every single thing. We got group shots, couple shots, jumping shots (see above), and just any shot with a gorgeous background. The pictures she snapped of us are easily my favorites.

The Nuturing

Our moms would be happy to hear that Susan took care of us each day. She brought a cooler of waters and even had fantastic snacks. We devoured our very own cheese bar on the road one day - she thought we'd need a snack before our next tasting. Nothing heavy - just something to settle our tummies and keep us fueled before the next go-round.

At one point, she gave us each a bottle of water and pretty much demanded we chug it. She had little ways of looking out for us. On our one day without her (where the ladies hit the spa), Susan texted me to make sure I was getting refreshed. We loved her for being there for us - so unexpected to have on this dream trip.

The Organization

She kept a copy of our itinerary and kept track of our reservations.  If we were late for one, she would call the vineyard to let them know we were behind. Susan also offered to pick up food for us while we were tasting - texting menu options in case we were starved. And trust me, we pretty much ate all of Napa.

I'm not going to lie - we miss her! We were a crazy bunch, but she kept up with us in humor and patience. She was a part of my dream trip I didn't ever think would happen. Her final text to us really made us all teary - what a beautiful soul!

If you ever plan a trip to Napa, the BEST tip I can offer is to get a driver. And go a step ahead - find one like sweet, sassy Susan!

There's more to share about our Napa vacay - there are so many MUST-DOs while you are there, and I can't wait to share them with you!


A Gift Guide for the Deserving Mom

It's the most wonderful time of the year! We just returned from vacation, celebrated Thanksgiving, and now we are doing all things Christmas. As a busy mama, shopping online has been my jam. Taking the kids from store to store can be tedious and make you feel a little bah-humbug. Good thing you can easily get some goodies like these on my gift guide for the deserving mama.

If you are shopping for a friend, sister, or maybe need to give the hubs some ideas for yourself, these practical gifts will make any mama smile!

Stella and Dot Eva Ear Jacket and Hammered Wire Large Hoops - I am in LOVE with these earrings! I wore both on my Napa trip and really haven't taken off the hoops at all. The best part with the jacket style is you have so many earrings in one. Switch the studs in the jacket or even wear the studs solo. So thankful for my sweet friend, Kellie, and her help in picking out these treats. Check out her page for all her Stella and Dot accessories.

BISSELL PowerEdge Pet Hard Floor Corded Vacuum - A friend recently suggested this vacuum after my old one went kaput. The reasonable price plus the ease of this household staple make it a winner. I don't have a pet, but I do have a toddler who leaves treats of all kinds on the floor and the carpet. This light vacuum scoops up everything and even gets into the corners that other vacuums cannot. Game changer.

Wine Glass - "I Use to Sleep. Now I Just Wine." - I do love my wine, but I love it even more when I am relaxing with friends. Any wine drinkers in your crew? Or maybe you need a fun glass for your vino? This glass (alone with pretty much everything Brittany Garner) is a perfect gift.

Coffee Cup - "Drink the Coffee, Do the Things" - After a night of wine, you may need a caffeinated treat the next morning. Or, if you are like me, you need a cup EVERY morning. I have a growing mug collection and would love to add this one to it! Another great gift for your sweet coffee-addicted friends.

Dekal Monogrammed Cups - I have some talented friends, and my friend Yessenia can help you create the cutest gift for your friends/loved ones/yourself. These monogrammed tumblers are perfect for the on-the-go mama. I love mine!

Pura Vida Bracelets - Mental Health Awareness - This simple bracelet says so much. You know how much talking about mental health means to me, so I love this bracelet that represents Mental Health Awareness. Head over and check out what Pura Vida has for causes dear to you. They are delicate and a sweet gift for your arm or those of the ones you love.

The holidays can be so busy, and the stress can come quickly. I hope this gift guide not only helps you find something special for a loved one, but I honestly hope you find something perfect just for YOU. Share with your spouse or grab yourself a treat.

I can't wait for our holiday plans and to shop for my family and friends. I also can't wait to share more of our Napa trip - gorgeous scenery, delicious wine/food, and the ONE tip you need to make your Cali getaway amazing!

Talk soon! Happy shopping!

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4 Must-Haves for the Perfect Night In

I love the holiday season - the meaning, the lights, the decorations, and the kids' excitement. We already have quite a bit on the calendar, and I don't want it overcome with stress. Since I am being more intentional, I am  determined to keep the holidays fun and light. Who wants to be stressed with all the jolly and cheer?

In the last two years, I have done 25 days of fun with the kids. Starting December 1, we do one Christmas activity a day - read a holiday book, look at Christmas lights, make cookies, sing a holiday song, etc. The most favorite one? A family movie night - complete with a holiday movie. So, cozy up and gather your must-haves for a perfect night in this holiday season.

The Perfect Holiday Movie

My son just told me he cannot wait to watch these holiday movie favorites. We laugh at Elf each year like it's the first time we've seen it. Such a classic. I am excited my littlest is getting big enough to really feel all the joy these movies offer. We can't wait to cuddle up and watch these family flicks.

Home Alone
The Polar Express

I have my own list of holiday movies that are just for me. I make it a point to watch these and a few others before Christmas ends. Love Actually is usually playing when I am decorating!

The Holiday
Love Actually
Christmas Vacation

A Yummy Treat

There are so many yummy holiday treats to make and enjoy with your family. Head over to my Pinterest page and you can see all the Christmas Ideas I am collecting - treats and eats included. These cookies and hot chocolate will be great additions to our night in.

White Chocolate Dipped Peppermint Cookies
Creamy Crockpot Hot Chocolate

Christmas Pajamas

Old Navy is my go-to for pajamas, and these holiday ones are perfect for my loves. The pizza ones for my big boy and this milk and cookies set for my little diva. Notice the food theme. This sleepwear will be perfect with our hot cocoa and cookies.
A Cozy Spot

We have been on the lookout for a new mattress since ours is 8 years old. We love to cuddle up in our big bed with the kids, so we want something durable and comfy. Enter the Leesa mattress. This mattress comes highly recommended, so I am excited to add this to my Christmas wish list. If there are two things this mama craves, it's comfort and rest. I know I am not the only tired mama who dreams of long snoozes especially during the busy holiday season.

Check out The Sweet Home's review on this perfect item for a good night's rest.

One final thing we need here in Texas is the cold weather - the snuggles will go better with a winter forecast. And of course, the lights on the tree make it festive, too.

Cheers to a night in with your family. Don't forget to pin this if you are ready to plan some stress-free holiday fun!

Disclaimer - This post is inspired by Leesa and as always, all our opinions are my own. Affiliate links are also used in this post.


How to Live a More Intentional Life

Note: I wrote this post before the election and all that has happened this week. My desire to be intentional is stronger than ever. More to come on that topic - if I get the nerve and/or feel a call to write about my feelings. Until then, let's just be kind.

Somehow we stumbled upon November - a time of reflection and thanksgiving. And for me, this time of year is hitting close to home. I took that brief little blogging break to let my anxiety rest a bit. A couple of weeks ago, the stomach bug hit me HARD. No really, it hit so hard that I hit the bath tub - head first after fainting from dehydration. An ER visit. Stitches. IVs. Cat scans. Anxeity. Fear.

But what also followed was a sense of needing to slow the heck down. To stop being so hard on myself. To rest and stop getting so anxious over things beyond my control. What got my head literally and figuratively all messed up? I had spent the day before getting sick doing a juice cleanse because I was feeling gross in the mom bod department. The doctors and friends/family are in 100% agreement that these juices are the reason behind my quick illness/fall.

This juice cleanse and stitches not only took me out for a good day or two, but they also made me take inventory. I needed to take away some of the anxiety - I can't control the worried thoughts that spin in my stitched up head, but I could release some of the unnecessary pressures I put upon myself.  If you follow me on Instagram, I mentioned this week that I want to be more intentional. Most days can be hard for me - what's my daily worry? Will grief make an appearance? What if something bad happens again? What if I never get back to that weight I once was a couple of years ago? I. JUST. CAN'T. ANYMORE.

Maybe you already live this way. Maybe you are able to see the good in every moment. But for some of us anxious ones, these tasks are HARD. We have to be intentional. We have to CHOOSE with every inch of our being to see the GOOD. Wherever you are in your thankful November or your goals of being more intentional, these questions may help you find that solace and positivity you desire.

What is working for you?

Take brief stock of what you do each day. Pinpoint the thing(s) that give you a sense of peace. Find the one thing that fills your heart and mind - then keep doing it. Of course, my kids are my heart so that's an easy one. I am going to always be there for them. But, what about YOU? As a person behind the mom gig, what makes YOU happy? I love my workouts - even if they are early, short, or too hard/too easy - they fuel me into my day. Take some time to find what gives you peace, a breather from the rush. Then, do it daily.

What is NOT working for you?

See above and flip it. What is one thing you do each day that makes you cringe? Worry? Stress? GET RID OF IT. I do love food, and when I would indulge, I would let this little voice gripe about poor decisions. See juice detox example. I don't plan to jump in a bowl of queso (though how nice does that sound??), but I do plan to allow myself treats and eats instead of letting in all the negative talk. Look around you and get rid of that unnecessary worry that carries too much weight. It doesn't work; cut it out!

What is one thing you can do in your daily routine that can give you purpose?

I want to write more. Though I haven't blogged lately, the writing always goes on for me. It's a release. What is one thing you can do for a  release? Read a good book. Get crafty. Cook. Start a blog! Have a corner just for you - the place you can go to for a breath and a reminder that you do have so much purpose.

What are you headed?

This answer does not have to be a specific destination; it can simply be that change you want to implement in your life. Think of your heart, body, mind, and soul. Nourish each of those - maybe it's going back to school and/or work. Maybe it's to read a devotional or join a boot camp. Or maybe it's like me - to filter out what does not give my life purpose and be intentional in making that change happen. My destination is lofty and broad, I know that. And, I know that it will be hard for me to not dwell on worry. But, something has to give.

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Many close friends and family have asked why I just can't turn off the worry and see my daily blessings. If I had that answer, I would be shouting it from the rooftops, and I sure wouldn't have a new scar on my forehead. So, I am going to do the next best thing - choose to do things I can embrace and fully commit.

And with this crazy world we live in, we have to look at ourselves. Wake up each day with purpose. Wake up knowing you are doing the best you can. Give yourself grace then take a minute to ask yourselves these questions. I won't be perfect, but I am committed to trying.

Guess I am thankful for a stomach bug and six stitches for this reminder.

PIN THIS and join me to live a more intentional life. There is no way I can do this alone - care to join me?


A Letter To The Mom Battling Anxiety

This last week has been  full of sickness for my family. Just the typical bug that got me last. I knew it was coming; I wasn't going to get away unscathed. Unfortunately, this sickness hit me the hardest and resulted in a quick hospital stay and a few stitches. After a follow-up visit with my regular doctor, I was given a clean bill of health. But, it doesn't end there for me. This incident sparked my nemesis, anxiety, into overdrive. Why did this happen? Why me? Why another hiccup in this already anxious life?

I know, I know. I'm okay. People have more terrible sickness than this. Relax. Rest, Oh, how I wish my brain understood that, but it doesn't. I will tell you one thing it has done - forced me to slow down and take a minute.. Theses stiches are definitely driving my anxiety, but they are doing a little bit more.

I wanted to put this week into words, but all I could think of sounded just like this Huffington Post piece I wrote not long ago - this letter to the anxious mama. Maybe you will understand why our minds go from small to catastrophic in no time flat. Maybe you will understand why I need a little break.

To the precious, worried mama,

I know what it's like to wake up some mornings and think of the first worry you have to confront. Or, maybe it's a list of worries - simple tasks like housework or making sure your child is on time for school. Or maybe it's much bigger - your health, your kids' health, money, the loss of a loved one, the unknown. Or, this one can be the hardest - you have NO idea what your worry is, you just FEEL off.

I know these feelings too well.

You feel terrible because you are really okay - you are physically fine. But, there's something that just doesn't feel right. Most of the time, you can't put your finger on it; you just have this heavy burden pressing on your shoulders and sometimes your chest. You can't lift it off for some reason. There's nothing to grab so you just fall a bit deeper into the worry.

I know this feeling too. I've been there.

Maybe life has been tough - there's been death or maybe sickness. You struggle with relationships. You can't make ends meet. So, you know the reason why you worry. Or, maybe life has been pretty good, but the world around you seems scary for you and for your kids, so you worry about any of you going into the thick of it all.

It's scary. I know it.

You see other moms with the cutest clothes, the perfectly coifed hair, or maybe even that chiseled physique you can't imagine having in your postpartum life. You wonder why you can't do all of these things - be all of these things.

The feeling wears you down. I know it does.

I know the triggers to my anxious moments. Writing this post threw me into a panic that I hadn't had in a while, so I needed to get the words out here. Suddenly, these memories and the thought of an impending appointment left me in a puddle of tears right after hitting publish. Then these tears made me think of my brother. Worry came crushing down - thinking of all of us he left behind and would we make it to the other side of grief. One thing after another then another.

It's a fast-moving train; a fear with a crazy ripple effect. I know it and feel it.

When that anxiety or worry comes, we have to talk about it. Just as you would talk about fixing any physical illness, we need to talk about these feelings too. Not just with friends and family, but with a counselor or trusted doctor. We must not add to our worry by worrying over what others will think. Seek your help - know whom you can trust and do not be afraid to get the words out into the open.

I love my people - those who love me and guide me no matter my fear. Share with yours.

Take your time in finding what makes you most anxious. Take your time understanding your triggers. Write your thoughts down - in a letter or just brainstorm. Use these words to start a conversation with someone who can really help. And know this is not going to go away overnight or maybe ever. But, you have the ability to find your ways to monitor and keep the worried thoughts away.

I am in a daily struggle, but I fight it still. With prayer, with exercise, with support.

Take a walk. Move moreFind a counselor. Love one another. Trust yourself. Forgive yourself.

Please know you are not alone. You will never be alone. You do not need to be ashamed because you are passionate and strong.

I am with you.

So with that being said, I think a blogging break is in order. This corner has become MINE to share and create; suddenly, it feels like it's losing the effect it usually has for me. I am not letting anxiety win. I am letting these stitches remind me to take a break. Refocus. Relax, And simply enjoy.

This week, I will focus on health - mental and physical - and remember why this place was created in the first place.

See you all very soon, friends. Take care of you and yours this weekend. xoxoxo

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