The Healthy Mama Series - Meet Megan

This post in my Healthy Mama Series has special meaning for me. Megan is my trainer, but she's become so much more than that - she is my dear friend, prayer buddy, and encourager. When we workout, we counsel one another and cheer on each other in good times and bad.

I am so honored to share her story. Her story is WHY I make fitness a priority - when your body can change and get stronger, it translates into so much more.  Your mental health improves. You improve. Megan's story has not been without heartache and struggle, and I can't wait for her to inspire you.

I am extremely honored to be asked to share my story with you. Health and fitness have become a huge part of who I am, but it certainly didn’t start out that way. My journey began from a need to be more than just physically healthy. My mental health was terrible and getting worse by the day.

Unfortunately, addiction has touched the lives of many, and it is a big part of how my story starts.  I am a mother of two beautiful daughters, and I also struggled with a dependency to alcohol and with severe depression and anxiety. The alcoholism made me gain a weight because 1. I didn’t care about myself and 2. beer and wine have many calories! Once I got help and stopped drinking, the real battle began.

With nothing to mask the depression, I had to face it head on. Panic attacks and all. I could hardly face the grocery store alone - so the gym? Forget it! Not knowing what to do, I decided to start running bleachers. I thought if I started to lose weight, I might start to feel better about myself. Then maybe - just maybe - the depression and panic attacks would stop. After all, my girls deserve to have a happy, healthy mom. I had to make a change. As it turns out, that one decision to try something different changed everything for me.

The bleachers were a building block. They set the foundation to show me I am capable of change AND that I don’t have to be that sad, isolated person anymore. Hitting the bleachers even when I didn’t want to helped break through the mental barriers that held me back in other areas of my life. Sometimes you just have to fake it ‘til you make it, and that’s what I did. Having my daughters there to watch Mommy be strong was a huge motivator. They need to see me take care of myself. I wanted them to know it’s good to love yourself and take pride in your accomplishments. I stuck with the bleachers for about 6 months until I had shed about 35 pounds.

Let’s be honest - life can be a crazy, loopy roller coaster ride. But for the most part,  I never gave up on eating right and working out. It made a tremendous difference in my depression. I did eventually break down and seek medical help for it, and the doctor strongly encouraged me to keep after my physical health. For the first time in as long as I could remember, I cared about myself and decided to join a local outdoor fit camp.

On the days I didn’t really want to work out, I was still motivated to go because I built relationships with the other fit campers. I wanted to hang out with these new people who became my friends. My kids went with me. The boot camp became family.

After a year of attending, the owner asked me to start a camp in my area. WHO ME? Someone wanted me to LEAD my own boot camp? I was terrified, but I knew I had to do it. This experience brought so much to my life that all I wanted to do was help other moms build their confidence too.

Soon, I was certified as an NASM Personal Trainer and began teaching my own class, Fit for Life - Boot Camp. The girl no one would have ever expected. I am now in the best shape of my life; I have the most amazing bond with my daughters: and I have built friendships I could have never dreamed of having before this transition. To me, these bonds are why health and fitness are more than just looking good.

There is so much out there that life has to offer and sometimes all we need is a little confidence and motivation to be able to go out there and grab it. Society seems to do nothing but teach us to compare ourselves to others and to tear each other down. Fitness is an outlet I want to use to change those feelings. I want all of our children to grow up knowing they are beautiful inside and out. What better place to learn that than from their mom?

We don’t need to compare our insides to each other’s outside. None of us are on the same journey. Let’s be there for each other and be accountable to one another so we can be the happiest, healthiest version of ourselves. Let’s get Fit for Life!

I want to close in saying that if you battle with depression, anxiety and/or addiction, I pray you will reach out. If not first to a doctor, then talk to a friend and know you are not alone!

And a big THANK YOU to Kim for being an amazingly dedicated client, dear friend (and cheerleader) and for giving me this opportunity to share a piece of myself with all of you. God Bless!

Thank you, Megan, for sharing your story. As always, you inspire, encourage, and love - such a great example for all the busy moms out there.

To see more of this series, click the link at the top of the blog to read all the amazing stories of women who have changed their lives for the better. As Megan states here, a transition can occur mentally as well as physically. If you have a story to share, please contact me. We need to keep learning from each other.

Simple Father's Day Ideas

Father's Day is just around the corner, and the kids are ready to celebrate the best guy they know. This day can be hard - and will be hard yet again this year - but, my husband works so hard and loves with all he has. We want to shower him with that love right back! The problem is - he is HARD when it comes to gifts and such. He is a simple man and will say he doesn't need a thing. So, we are planning an easy day of fun, sun, and family. Here's how you can plan a simple Father's Day for your simple guy, too.

{Make sure you check out all of the great links I've shared in today's post - so many good ideas and gift guides to help make this day simple for you as well}

Follow his interests.

My hubby loves to work in his shop and be outdoors. We could get him the latest gadget at Home Deport, but I bet I'd buy the wrong thing. And, I bet he has most tools a man could ever need. He can do without dinners out or big celebrations, so we are staying put. The pool. The grill. The kids. That's all he wants. But, maybe your hubs wants adventure or a nice dinner out. If that's for him, look for a fun kid-friendly restaurant and have some fun. Just ask what he would like to do and go!

Involve the kids.

My son is so excited for Father's Day as he knows it's the perfect day to tell his dad how great he is. He knows Dad wants some fun in the sun, so he came up with a great idea to get him this Pool Basketball Hoop to add to our day. I love that his little guy came up with this gift all on his own - the excitement itself will make the best present.

Or, get crafty. We have made some cute Father's Day gifts in the past, so we are searching for some more. Their dad loves to display any handmade gift in his office for the world to see, and when the kids visit, they love seeing their work, and their dad showing it off for his coworkers. Check out these links for some easy Father's Day gifts the kids can do.

Father's Day Printable

Father's Day Handprint/Footprint Crafts

Make his favorite treat.

Baking is the way to my guy's heart, and he has some specific favorites. Most importantly, anything pineapple and anything cheesecake. Through a recent link-up, I found these treats that will make him drool.

Pineapple Cheesecakes

Take it easy.

Sundays are made for rest, and that's just what this dad needs. He works long hours yet comes home to kids who barely let him in the door to unwind from his crazy day. Yet, he never complains - just picks them up making their whole world better. He gives to us day in and day out, so if he wants a simple day at home, that's just what he's going to get!

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If you are looking for a bit more, check out the following Father's Day Gift Guides. These great ideas are perfect for any dad.

Seven Graces - Father's Day Wish List

My Kind of Sweet - Father's Day Gift Guide

The Home Loving Wife - The Ultimate Father's Day Gift Guide

Image via Juggling Act Mama

Happy Father's Day to all the great dads out there! And to those who have fathers in Heaven, my love and prayers are with all of you.

And, you may have noticed some changes around here. I am SO excited to clean up this space and make it more classic and simple. Special thanks to  Get Polished for the new design - Chelsea was great to work with and helped a great deal. Highly recommend!

What do you think? Change is good :)

How To Get Out Of The Mom Funk

Oh heavens, it's been a whole week out of school and while we are enjoying some freedom, there's been some laziness. These lazy days are much needed, but I'm ready to tackle my Summer Bucket List and simply get out of the mom funk stat. I'm not talking big events and adventures every single day; I just need to snap out of the tired and into the fun.

What do you do when you are feeling tired and funky? I'm about to put my best practices to work and wanted to share some with all of you. Here's what's about to happen up in the Reed casa.

Get Up Earlier.

Now, I am not talking 5 am - just get up a bit before the kids. I don't know about you, but when I have a kid in my face before I can come to consciousness, it startles me into the day. I like a slow wake-up so I can stretch, pray, and drink my beloved coffee. Another great tip - make your bed. Most days, making my bed is the only cleaning I get done so it makes me feel like I conquered the world.

Move It. Move It.

Fitness gets my blood pumping and reminds me how strong I am. But, to be honest, my early morning workouts aren't happening. Mama wants to sleep in on summer days too. Then what? Join a gym with free child care. Swim. Go for an evening stroll. Meet friends at the park and chase those kids around.  If you can find a tough boot camp class, fitness class at the gym, or CrossFit, go try it. A good, strength training workout does wonders not just for your body but for that tired mama mind too.

Get Creative.

This one is tough for me because I am not much of a DIY'er though I try! Writing is my creative outlet, and when it's nap/rest time, that's just what I do. I love coming to my little blog and getting words out - I can't paint or knit to save my life, but I feel creative when I write. In fact, this blog means so much to me because of its therapy that I am about to change up things. Can't wait for what's in store in my little corner.

But, maybe you're craftier than me - tackle that DIY project you've been thinking of for so long. Involve your kids too - a great summer activity is sitting outside in the late afternoon and going crazy with sidewalk chalk. When you can get those creative juices going, it's a mood-booster. Pinterest is the hub for all things creative - pin some favorites and get going.

Get Dressed.

For 12 years, I got up each morning, dressed for work, and hit the road. When I started staying at home, I fell into my comfy yoga pants and that messy mom bun.  I am 100% in support of this get-up, but there are some days I need to feel like a human - not just a tired mom. Just a cute casual graphic tee can work or maybe a simple sundress. I don't have much of a make-up routine, but when I put on a little something with my comfy casualwear, I feel tons better. It's just finding that time to get dressed before this little one hits the ground running. Another good reason to get up a bit earlier too!

Get Out.

Now, you're dressed. You've got a touch of something on your face. Go do something. A park trip, a lunch date (where are my Chick Fil A moms??), take the kids to the library, grab a frap and walk around Target. Anything to get out and see the world. I do love our lazy pajama days at home, but when you get out, it expands those four walls that sometimes get a little too close and affect our moods. Like in my bucket list, we plan on one big adventure each week, and while it will be HOT, I know we will need to see the world around us.

I would love to hear how you get out of your slumps. Routines? Can't live without life hacks? I will take all the advice I can get - let's share!

The Healthy Mama Series - Meet Tajuana

A new week is upon us - a new week to get prepared and motivated. I am so excited to have Tajuana here to share how she keeps herself in check and motivated every single day. In today's world, it's so easy to get wrapped up in who is doing what and why you aren't there yet. Tajuana puts that all in perspective. Welcome her and enjoy her words for this week's Healthy Mama Series.

Have you ever been on the highway in your zone and then all of a sudden another car comes over at full speed, right in front of you, and nearly cuts you off? All of this happening without warning, no signal lights, no sight of them in your blind spot, NOTHING!  I’m sure we all have been in that situation.  To be honest with you, being either driver is very scary! Your life is no longer the only one at stake, now others are involved. My solution to that is….STAY IN YOUR LANE.

This concept also applies to life.  We all need to focus on our own race of life and not become distracted by others.  We are all on our own journey.  I have tied this into my health and fitness journey.  I have had to tell myself, “STAY IN YOUR LANE,” more times than I care to admit!  I look at others and say, “why is this exercise so easy for them and not for me? How is that they can eat ANYTHING and not gain a pound, not even an inch?” I have to constantly remind myself that the only circumstances that I am fully aware of, at the present moment, are mine and mine alone. I don’t know why certain people cannot gain weight (maybe they have a condition that stops them from putting on pounds). I don’t know why certain people can keep up with different exercises (maybe they are trained dancers). I just don’t know. I only know what I see in front of me and that is only a minuscule part of their story.

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The older I get, the more I realize that people only share what they want you to know. No joke! A lot of people are extremely private and choose to keep things to themselves.  With age, comes wisdom.  In our modern day, technology has taken over our lives…or so it seems.  Can you say social media? Social Media is the one place you can go if you want to not be in your own lane.

Another lesson I’ve learned since aging is that the perfect pictures displayed on social media are not the real thing.  Again, people only share what they want you to know. Now, don’t get me wrong, some things are true, raw, and honest.   Those are the posts that I am drawn to, especially those related to health and fitness.  We all have bad days, and it’s nice to see when others admit to having not so good days too, whether it’s the unhealthy food that they ate or the workout that they missed.

I like to take that route when sharing my journey. I strive to be true, real, and honest with my sharing. I can only do this by staying in my own lane. How am I to focus on my own journey and progress if I am constantly worrying about others’ journeys?  I can’t; it’s one or the other.  I have been practicing to train my mind (the most powerful muscle and worst enemy) to keep focused and to stay in my lane.  It is not an easy task; it requires daily reminders and constant positive motivation.  This recent training has allowed me to dive into the world of Personal Development which has helped me tremendously on my journey. I listen to podcasts and read books.  I am always looking for ways to improve myself. 

I now know that by staying in my lane, I have a lot more to gain than if I were to cut someone off in their lane. No good has ever come of that. I also have to remember that it’s the not the destination that counts, it’s the journey. 

Tajuana Paige, 29, is from New Jersey - born and raised. True Jersey Girl! She lives in Maryland now and is a mom to two cats - a fur baby mom. She loves dogs too as her parents have a dog whom she loves dearly. Summer is her favorite season, and she loves yoga, reading, and history. She says she is a history nerd :). She also loves hanging out with friends and family, and her Friday night can consist of wine and Netflix. She also loves watching ID Discovery. 

Follow Tajuana on her blog // Instagram // Facebook
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Don't forget to check out the other posts from The Healthy Mama Series:

Kristin // Kim // Nessa

And if you would like to share how fitness and healthy living are important to you, please send me an email. I'd love to feature YOU!

Transitioning from Working Mom to SAHM

If you have read for a while, you know that back in my past life, I was a teacher. My “kids” were high school students prepping for college/the real world, and I LOVED it. Sure, days were long, and the papers I graded were even longer, but the classroom was a good fit for me. I did become a counselor for the last 4 years of my career, and I heard/saw things that made my heart break. These stories made me want to run home and never let go of my son. So, when I finally became pregnant with baby #2, we decided we were in a good place for me to stay home.

Let me tell you  the transition was HARD. I knew my own kids would be tough little employees; but, it was the starting over that had me stumped and, honestly, a bit lonely. I missed my co-workers greatly; I missed a good adult conversation. My fellow teachers/counselors were some of the best people I’ve ever encountered, and I missed them like crazy. You talk to them all day, and you share; you help; and you laugh/cry. They knew you like your family did because you spent so much time with them, and they just got it – the troubled kids, the elaborate lesson plans, the grading, and the parents. When my newest little coworker (i.e. my daughter) didn’t converse back or get my jokes/good cries, I realized just how lonely I was.

Teacher Dance at a Friday Pep Rally - A Favorite Memory

And this past weekend, I was reminded of another frustration – not being able to monetarily contribute to our family. This concern may seem trivial to some, but when I do make my trips to Target or feel the craving for a Starbucks (did I mention my daughter wasn’t a fan of that sleeping thing for most of her first year?), I would feel such guilt. Not that I was rolling in the dough from that awesome teacher’s salary, but I was earning something. That income was helpful and allowed us to save money for emergencies and/or family treats and trips. Now, I have a hard time with my husband being the sole provider – mainly because he works SO hard for us, and I do not want him to stress over finances when work is stressful enough. I wasn’t prepared for this transition causing such anxiety.

I am going into year four of staying at home (I go by school years #teacherprobs), and my anxieties are ceasing a bit. Prayer and praise help me get through, but there’s been some other amazing things that have helped. The most important – my friends. I’m talking about the new ones I’ve met through boot camp, gymnastics and reading classes, Bible study, and other preschool moms. At almost 40, I made new friends - great friends who trudge through the stay at home life with me. We help and encourage just as those friends I made long ago. The loneliness is no more, and for that, I am so grateful.

This weekend, I got a new car, and while I am SO excited (seriously, the automatic back door just changed this toddler mom’s life), I felt a bit guilty. My husband worked hard to make sure we got a safer car; he should get something new first to be honest. But, when I thanked him for working so hard for us, he never flinched. He reminded me how hard I work too. I still would love to help more financially, but that comment made me feel so much better. And, it motivated me to start brainstorming what’s next for me. That is exciting stuff, my friends. I love some good motivation.

If you are a new stay at home mom after working for a bit or you are even thinking about it, there will be worries that come up that you may not be aware of right now. You may not feel worthy as you once did in your old day job. You may feel financial stress. But, you are going to be doing an important job at home just as you once did in the real world.

Hang on tight and find your tribe. Your new little bosses are waiting. And they love you like crazy.

The Summer Bucket List - Part II

Hip hip hooray! We are inching closer to summer - lazy days, swimming, not packing lunches, no rushing out the door...I am ready! Last year, I posted this bucket list for summer fun, and we have created this summer's list, too. Big brother is excited; I'm excited {I may sing a different tune come July, but for right now, let there be peace on earth!}

We live in a suburb of a big city, so if we want to do something in town, it takes a whole day and a lot of planning. And with a busy toddler, I can get lazy and prefer a day at home. Plus, I LOVE her naps more than she does and covet that time when all is quiet and calm. Many of my plans revolve around this nap - tired toddler moms, can you feel me? This nap can be frustrating for her older brother so I have made him a deal. One big thing a week - the zoo, the beach, the museum, etc  - and I won't worry about a nap. It's getting CRAZY up in here.

My goal for this bucket list is to keep it simple - here's what we are doing for our Summer Bucket List - Part II.

Simple. Toddler-friendly. Big brother-approved. We will hang up this list and mark as we go. I want this summer to be one to remember; I want to throw caution to the wind and let loose. We've had a rough go as of late, and we need some good old-fashioned fun. I am want to kick the anxiety out the door and be with my littles. They need sun, fun, and a worry-free me.

I will share updates as to what we are doing and how it's going. Those parfaits? The lemonade? I know both will be big hits.

What about you? What would be on your list?

Happy summer, my friends! Make it a great one!

PS - Check out where I'm linking up this week!

The Healthy Mama Series - Meet Vanessa

I am so excited to share a mama who believes in health and wellness. Hearing other stories about how busy moms incorporate fitness into their lives inspires me to be better. I know you will enjoy her story as much as I do. Thank you so much for sharing, Vanessa!

I’m a mama. Most of you reading this are probably mamas or mamas to be. Let’s be real for a second. Mama life is wonderful AND challenging, but mainly wonderful and sweet, with exceptions to those really rough days that make you forget you can totally do this beautiful job you were called to do. Because there are many days as a mom that you can barely go the bathroom, and who has time to style their hair? I’ve been a mom for eleven sweet months. There have been many up and down days, more up days though! But even though I’m a mama and I take care of my son 24/7 and rarely have downtime, there is one thing I try and make sure I always have time for. And even if that means waking up half an hour earlier, I do it.

So what do I make time for? Exercise. You know why? Because when I get a quick work out in every single day (or at least 5 times a week), I feel empowered, strengthened, and energized. I need that. I need those 20-30 minutes of just Vanessa time. I want to be a fit mom so I can keep up with my son. But that’s not my only reason.

So I definitely don’t have that child who has slept through the night from six weeks on. In fact, he’s eleven months now and still wakes up at least once throughout the night. And let’s be honest right now. Sleepless nights suck. LIKE BIG TIME. It’s so easy to lose your focus on whom you really are and become super depressed and frustrated because lack of sleep will totally do that to you. There have been countless nights where I slept on the sofa or paced the living in circles trying to get a baby to sleep. But you know something I’ve always tried to do? Work out. That is something for ME. And the second I finish an intense kick butt work out, I feel as if anything can come against me today.

Some mornings I manage to finish my workout before Eli wakes up. Other mornings I’m jumping around him, lunging next to him, using him as a weight, and working on my workout while also trying to occupy him. Those mornings are challenging but just like anything else, I don’t give up because I love to see the results my body has made. It is incredible to watch the progress your body goes through. Seriously, you can do anything with your body as long as you keep up with it. The hardest thing for me is consistency because being a mommy definitely means your little routine you had before babies goes out of the window and everything changes. I’m a control freak so I’ve had to learn to accept the changes that come with every single day. So now I wake up at 5:30am every day just to get a work out in before the little one wakes up. I want to be a strong mommy. I want to show my son that health and fitness are important.

Most of the times I just finish my workout, sweaty and all, and I hear Eli in the bedroom, awake. So I put my mommy smile on, open the door, and greet my sweet baby. Truth is I don’t really have a lot of time to fit my workouts in. I have a baby that needs mama. I have housework that needs to get done. I’m married to a Navy man so I’m mainly alone and parent solo. But I do what I can, when I can. And that makes me feel worth it. My baby comes first, BUT mama also needs to look after herself. And for me, working out feels good for my body and also does wonders for my mind!

Do something for you every day. You are worth it.

Vanessa is mommy to an 11 month old and a wife to her sweetheart who serves as a Naval Officer. She loves to blog, stay fit, enjoy a beach day while eating watermelon, and coffee and Jesus are her thing! Make sure to check our her blog and over on Facebook and Instagram.

Blog: https://fitfoodiemomlife.wordpress.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/fitfoodiemommie/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/fitfoodiemomlife/

Thank you so much for sharing and for the reminder of how beautiful and strong we all are - every single day. We ARE so worth it.

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To see other mamas in my Healthy Mama Series, you can check out Kristin here. Or, to see how fitness continues to be valuable in my life, you can check out my transformation here. If you are interested in sharing how health and wellness are valuable to you, please contact me. I love sharing strong mamas!

Friday Finds {Vol. 28} - Everyday Mom Style {Grapic Tees PLUS a Treat}

Happy Friday! After a few days of worry, we need a little fun. AM I RIGHT? And, you know what's fun? NEW CLOTHES.

We are gearing up for a weekend of sports, the school carnival, and some family time. It's getting hot in Texas, so it's time for some shorts and my current obsession - the graphic tee.

There are so many cute shops out there who have the best graphic tees for a busy, tired mama. Seriously - how cute are these? I just can't decide which one (or two or three) I need.

Left // Top // Bottom

But, if you need your graphic tee fix right now, I have two places for you to hit - TJ Maxx and Kohl's. You can find the most comfortable tees for the best prices.

This outfit is going to be my summer uniform. Do not be alarmed if you see me in this get-up multiple times during the next few months.

Shorts // Shirt // Shoes

And, you can't go wrong with these recent purchases. They are cozy, soft and give just a few clues into my crazy, caffeinated life.

Both tees from TJ Maxx

I'd love to hear of more shops/places to grab some fun new items for my closet - especially the graphic tee. I'm all ears!

Have a blessed and FUN weekend, friends! Thanks for the love this week. I can FEEL it :)

And to add a little spice to your graphic tees, check out Rocksbox! My first box came this week and LOVE! I am currently obsessed with my new Kendra Scott studs in Peach Illusion. Want to know more or create your own dream Rocksbox? Check them out and get a FREE month with this code - alwaysanewdayxoxo - you will love all the goodies. Don't we all deserve a sparkly treat?

Friday Finds {Vol. 27} - Workout Round-Up

It's Fri-yay! I am so ready for another girls' weekend - yep, I am a lucky gal and get to hit the road again to see some friends. Right now, I am clinging to friends who just let me be me. Can't wait to share our trip - and yes, we followed all of these tips for a perfect weekend!

But, there's one thing I am trying to do while gone, and that's not go overboard on all the food. Weekends are my weakness. Stress is my weakness, too, if I'm being honest. I try very hard to move a few times a week because more than ANYTHING, I workout so I don't wig out. It's therapy for me. Plus, it makes me feels a wee bit better when I dig into that queso.

I am lacking on posting some Friday Finds, but I wanted to round-up some of my favorite workouts so you can see just how awesome a good workout makes you feel. Now, let's get to sweatin'.

Tabatas are my jam - they are quick, tough, and effective. Check out how they are done as well as my favorites:

Cardio Tabata

Legs Tabata

What if you have a busy toddler? Try this park/neighborhood workout.

The Toddler Workout

The best workout advice I can give is to find an accountability partner - check in, celebrate, support, encourage, and share. I love my accountability partners - I have a few because I need that much help. My dear friend, Megan, gets me and pushes me. Since my transformation has transformed back, I am hanging on to her more than ever.

And, if you are ever in need of guidance, but finances and time are tight, use Pinterest. Here are some I have saved and use at home.

The 20-Minute Workout

The 20-Minute Glute Circuit

The 18-Minute HIIT Workout

30-Minute Shape-Up Session

What's your fitness routine look like? How do you stay motivated? It is NOT easy, but we need to take care of ourselves to take care of everyone else. Have a great weekend - get outside and get moving. So many benefits - and we love a happy mama, right??

5 Things I've Learned My First Year of Blogging

Confession - I still have no idea what I am doing in this blogging world. At the end of 2015, I made the goal to start a blog to share my words with whomever wanted to hear them. I published this post last May and just jumped right into all of it. There went my words - out in the open for anyone to see, read, and comment. Yet, the comments didn't come; heck, neither did the views. Fast forward to now, and while I feel more confidence, I am still sitting in a world of experts and vast amounts of information on taking your blog to the next level. And truth be told, I don't even know what level I am trying to reach. I just want to write - to take a minute out of "adulting" and have a space to let it all go. I am a worrier; I have OCD. And to make it even more fun, I am in the midst of another grief journey. I don't know what's happening emotionally from one moment to the next, but words help me muddle through all the dirty to find the good.

If you have read from the beginning, thank you! Thank you for your patience, your advice, your comments, and your love. In the beginning, my plan was to focus on fitness, but when life changed again for me, I knew my vision was changing too. Sure, I would love a million viewers and to have my words reach the masses, but I really want a corner to share. So, from this rookie blogger who is a hot mess of all things, here are some things I have learned this first year.

Be authentic.

In May 2015, I shared my fitness routine and plan for healthy living. I joined a group of motivated ladies and thought it was a perfect niche for a new blog. Workout, sell stuff, keep motivated. It felt right for a long time, but when my brother died, it no longer felt like me. I am now a mom who is grieving yet caring for her family too - it's a roller coaster. Sure, my workouts make me feel so strong, but my words give me a strength I did not know I had. My life right now is not predictable or easy, so I want to share those ups and downs. Should you want to start your blog, my best advice is make a list of your "special" topic areas - ones where you feel real and passionate. This post from one of my favorite blogging experts really helped me in narrowing my focus and finding areas where I could fully connect to the topic and then hopefully the reader.

Utilize Social Media.

I get my social media "fix" via Instagram and Facebook. I love finding other blogs and other mamas who share their journeys - the real, nitty-gritty ones that make you nod your head, cry your eyes out, and/or laugh yourself silly. When I have a new post or even one posted somewhere bigger, I share hoping others will connect to my words. The very idea that my life experiences are out there for someone to read and understand is surreal and a dream come true. So, if you want to write or blog, link up with other blogs or share your content on all social media platforms. Ask your friends and family to share as well. The power behind sharing spreads your message - you never know who needs to hear what you have to say. When I am struggling to parent "perfectly," I love the words I find. They help me be better for these two loves.

Find a community.

I have found such confidence when I became a member of a blogging group. Motivating mom bloggers surround me as I test, try, and tempt new ideas for my little blog. Not only has this group been beneficial for me, but I also reached out to a fab mom blogger who then became one of my closest friends. Kristy's patience for my multitude of questions has helped my confidence grow since day one. If you want to write and share, reach out to those you follow and grow your community. There is such great support here, and it has shaped my direction for this space.

Be patient.

There is so much I want to do with my blog. I want to make changes to the look and the layout as well as learn more about growth possibilities. Being patient with all these ideas swirling in my head is hard for my OCD problems. Each week, I try to look at something new to incorporate - a newsletter is next up on my list. But, I don't want to throw it together; I want this newsletter to be useful and fun for the busy mom. So, with this idea coming soon, I want to take my time in creating this newsletter. If you want to monetize your blog or even find your niche, take your time and do your research. My blog isn't perfect, but I will take my time in making the perfect space for me and my readers.

Via

Learn as you go.

You could spend hours researching blogging techniques and tips. But just as with the patience, you have to take all these aspects in slowly and learn as you go. Start a Pinterest board for all your blogging research then take time pulling out what's best for you and your blog.

Or, join a group board of other bloggers so you can see their ideas that could best be used in your plans. I have to admit, I started so quickly because I was ready to see my dream become reality, but there are so many things I still need to learn. I plan to attend blogging conferences/workshops to keep learning. Even if I do get my blog where I like it, I won't stop learning. Plus, it's fun! And I need a little fun in my life.

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These are not mind-blowing tips from a world-renowned blogger; they are just simple things to keep in mind if you choose to share part of your world with others. It takes bravery, a leap of faith, and a great deal of support. Thank you to those who have shared, commented, and critiqued. This little mess of mine is going to keep going as long as the words flow. I've got stories to tell about parenting, grief, mental health, physical fitness, and so much more. Hang on - I am not where I want to be, but I am so excited to learn more and share more with all of you.

A Mother's Day Reminder

I want to wish all of the fabulous moms a very Happy Mother's Day. Even on the days we do not feel one bit fabulous, we need to remember how awesome we are. We keep our little people going. We really just keep our crazy lives rollin'. So on the days you don't feel so hot or you question all your parenting, remember - YOU ARE AWESOME. {I am writing this post on a not-so-good day so I need this awesome reminder just as the next tired mama}

Mother's Day needs to be a starting point - a place to let all moms know they are so loved. I've been thinking back to that day 7 years ago when I found out I was going to be a mom - I didn’t say a word that entire day out of pure shock, fear, and joy. The months leading up to my son’s arrival were pretty much spent in research - birthing, sleeping, feeding, surviving; I needed to KNOW all of it. I even read BabyWise and sticky-noted the crap out of that book. You know, because I was going to consult my annotations at 3 am when my little guy just wouldn’t sleep. I spent hours packing my hospital bag over and over. The final result? I packed pre-maternity pants because I thought my gut was going to magically shrink over night.

And as we all know, it’s a matter of survival the moment that little miracle is born. I never read that book again, and I wore my stretchy maternity jeans until he was over one. A friend told me the greatest advice when he was tiny, and I still hang out to it nowadays with two kids. This too shall pass. Not the sweet moments - we know we want those to linger forever as though time stops infinitely. The lack of sleep, the teething, the potty-training, the frustration, the temper tantrums, the I-can’t-remember-when-I-washed-my-hair look, the lack of adult interaction. All of those yucky times will pass. And you will still be awesome.

Maybe you read and utilized every single word of that important baby book, and maybe your child slept through the night at 6 weeks. But, maybe not. Maybe you had the baby blues. Maybe they lingered longer than you expected. Maybe you were afraid. Maybe you missed the pre-baby you. But, your babies thrived. At some point too, you thrived. Why? Because you are AWESOME.

This mom role is no joke - it’s chaos one minute then complete bliss the next. It’s pure exhaustion followed by pride with your little one’s newest accomplishment. You bottle-fed or you breastfed; you organically fed or you consider the fact that you got the toddler to eat that processed waffle your greatest accomplishment; you worked or you stayed at home. The list is as long as the comments on a Facebook mommy war post. No matter how you did it, you did it with love. And BECAUSE YOU ARE AWESOME.

Via

So celebrate your awesomeness on Sunday. Then on Monday, high-five your mom tribe and tell them how great they are. Hug your kids because they know how great YOU are. And be kind to all the moms out there. Let Mother’s Day be a starting point because we do not know the battles each other faces, but I do know this fact - moms can do HARD things. Guess why? We are so damn awesome.

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

The Perfect Girls Weekend

I just returned from my annual girls weekend with my college friends. A long weekend of laughing, lounging, eating, and conversation was good for this mommy's soul. How in the world did we make a 3-day weekend happen in our busy mom lives? It all started with an idea a few years ago and a commitment - and there you have the perfect girls weekend.

#1 - Start a Facebook Group

We started with an idea at one of our weddings and this turned into a private Facebook group where we could plan, coordinate, and discuss the weekend's itinerary. We could coordinate flight pick-ups, menu ideas, games, and then share our favorite moments from the weekend long after they happen. I love our little group and starting this Facebook planning group was just what we needed to get the weekend in motion. 

#2 - Pick Your Weekend

We always do the last weekend in April. This year, we already committed to our 2017 weekend so now we can head home, inform the husbands/work, gather babysitters, and start the countdown. Sure, we may miss soccer games or other events, but it's just easier to have this weekend set. No one flakes or makes other plans when this weekend is set. Make it a long weekend, too - we love our 2 full days and 3 nights of girl time.

#3 - Rent a House

Each year, we have rented a house in the same area with a full kitchen and a pool. We room with other friends and get cozy. All you need is in one space. The main idea is to not have plans - we sit in the pool and do not let time constrain us. A hotel getaway is great, but we like the ease of a home with all the amenities.

#4 - Keep It Simple

On our first evening, we conquer the grocery store. We partner with another friend and take a meal. This last trip, my friend Libbie and I had dinner. We chose the meals for the rest of the weekend and purchased our ingredients. We also have breakfast and lunch squared away with some snacks in between. Each year, I also learn a new recipe or snack idea I take home and use in my meal plans. Win-win!

Another way to keep it simple is to not make any plans. You are needed so much in your regular life and pulled in a thousand directions to take care of others, so it is nice to DO NOTHING for a few days. We like not worrying about time or places to be - it makes the weekend just simple and perfect. A bonus - I don't think I wore make-up once while there. Oh, and I stayed in my bathing suit/cover-up too. 

#5 - Grab Some Party Favors

This tradition just happened on its own. I had cups monogrammed for our first trip, then sweet Libbie had these koozies made with our college nicknames. The cups were perfect for some margaritas and the koozies kept our beers cold. I love these little treasures, and we make sure to bring them on each trip. My friend, Emily, also brought us fun water bottles too - a color for each of us!

I am sad it is over, but I am beyond blessed to have this group of ladies in my life. We met over 20 years ago, and we still pick up like no time has been lost. We support each other, crack each other up like crazy, and stick together even when we are apart. Thank you, sweet friends, for a great weekend - one I desperately needed.

Go start your group and get to planning. What a treasure you will have with your dear friends. I can't wait until we are rockin' our koozies at our girls weekends when we are old and gray. Now, THAT will be a good time.